Self Esteem or Ego?

Identification of Self-Esteem and Ego is always a big crucial topic.  I might not have any big tips for you in this post, but surely can assure you that you will find yourself in an imagination sphere after reading this.

We all love to say and see ourselves as a self-respecting person. The both ego and self-esteem are the nouns those can represent you as a unique in a crowd. But which one is better of them? Do you know the difference between them?

Have a study here with some examples:

• You are a Boss. One day, your sweeper hasn't come. So you don’t also feel comfortable to sweep your own chamber in front of your other employees. – Is it your ego or self-esteem?
• Your love does not speak with you for past one week; you don’t also initiate the situation to talk first from your side. Is it your ego or self-esteem?

Like the above examples, you can ask the question on your behaviors that are happening in your daily life.

We call it ego when one person acts and decides on his own way without giving or taking any chance. The person, who never likes to be soft, kind, is having more chances into the Egoism.

But the self-esteem comes from one ego. When you convert your ego into the self-esteem, it comes through the softness, kindness, truth, understanding and knowledge. You should be soft and give chances in the case of sweeping and your love.

You took the all steps first, you stopped your ego, but still it’s continuing. Your sweeper and your love took chances of your softness. Then the time has come to think about self- respect. Nobody can call you now that you have ego.

From this post, you might have some points to bring some modifications in your life.  You might be going to name of your behaviors; ego or self-esteem. But still it would be a difficult task; it is always being a very difficult work out to identify the both, so that you would have to study more. On the way of your study, you can say that you are on the way to being a real self-respecting person.

Last 15days back, I was on the road in Andrapradesh, Karnataka and Tamilnadu with my uncle. We were visiting some of spiritual places and learning some of saints’ lives.  We had a discussion on the above topic in the whole journey. It was a great experience. Anyways, that journey with uncle made me to write something on it today. Thanks to uncle and those days.

The next post is: Mildness or Weakness?

When you react on an activity, we can divide your reacts into two parts. In that we can also see the behaviors behind the each two parts. Like:

1. You didn’t sweep your chamber – In this you may have the ego(You can’t sweep at all as you are a boss) or self-esteem(you don’t want to do that work because your other employees won’t respect you and will feel bad, you don’t want to become a weak in front of your sweeper)
2. You swept your chamber yourself – In this you may have the Mildness(you are soft, you can give a chance, you want to give a lesson) or Weakness(You can’t be strong in front of a bad, can’t stop or argue with the people)

Here is a great comment on 'Aham' and 'Swaviman' from one of intelligent Men on facebook. (If he will allow me, I will mention his name in future)

First of all, Aham is your existence. It is the supreme consciousness.It is irreducible and far beyond your control. You must understand 'AHAM' and 'AHANKAR' differently. Ego is surely not the exact English equivalent of AHAM.

On the other hand, just opposite to your understanding, Swaviman is the part of our curtailed understanding of Aham. It is the blend of one's altruistic expression with love and possessiveness.It tacitly demands attention, respect and consideration. Swaviman is a great emotional feeling that seeks to tie others with you. The thought of not to be under others clutch is not 'swaviman', it is 'ahankar'. Swabhiman comes with deep involvement and possessiveness.